Sunday, May 11, 2008
the conspiracy of silence
all throughout my 6-year stay in UP Law, i was surrounded by close girlfriends who decided (either by choice or by chance) to have kids while in school. they carried their pregnancy with ease and grace.
in fact, one of my closest friends, at the height of her first pregnancy (she had 4 children all in all while in law) during our sophomore year, even had the audacity to correct judge salazar in our crim 2 class:
judge salazar: mrs. perey, what are the elements of this crime?
lumen: sir, it's miss perey. (without batting an eyelash. and she was 6 months round when this happened)
when it was time to give birth, they didn't even have to file for a leave of absence. lumen's maximum "maternity leave" was 2 weeks, even after giving birth to twins. lyne's too.
yet never, NEVER, did i hear them tell me or anyone else how difficult it is to be a mom...
how praning you would be watching over your baby, scared of what would happen to him in his sleep.
how exhausted you could become, lulling your baby to sleep and dozing off to sleep yourself, in the process.
how your vocal chords would refuse to sing another lullaby.
how your feet would refuse to be dragged to do another waltz.
i am not complaining. i love rauf with all my heart. but everyone out there should know that no matter how happy moms appear to be, EXHAUSTION is the name of the game.
and my game has barely begun.
happy mother's day to all!!!
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happy mother's day ate :-)
apparently, it is tougher to be a mother than to be a lawyer. :) but as with law, it seems like you are up to the challenge.
happy mother's day to you Aprylle. :)
my ma raised seven of us practically by herself... im sure you'll do just fine... hehehee..
but it is exhausting. i think.
Happy Mother's Day Plang!
but at the end of your every exhaustion....you will always see yourself smiling....simply because of your baby...
you're so right. exhaustion is the key word. and it's ok to complain. to get tired. to rant sometimes. to cry. but then again, they're only babies once. so pagbigyan na natin. time flies. mamaya lang they will not need us that much. so let's savor every bit of the clinging and the crying which only us, moms, could adequately, lovingly soothe.
thanks paula!!! have you seen our europe pics posted on yelle's multiply?
grabe, jan, it's really tougher. talo pa even my panic pre-weeks during our bar!!! hehehe...
same with my mom. which is why i am sooo amazed at all of our mothers. whew. :)
i know!!! you're at the brink of breaking down and giving up, then suddenly, he smiles in his sleep... bliss!!!!
wa pa ko maka-reach sa crying part... hehehe... but then again, one month pa lang naman...
and yes, i agree, we must be given leeway to complain. we are only human. (i have no plans of being a martyr supermom.)
i am very, very human... :)
happy first mother's day to you plang!!! it's gonna seem like forever but surprise surprise you'll get through it in one piece i assure ya!
ang galing apryll! hay, talaga! hirap maging nanay...although i miss lawschool a lot, i cannot seem to blame my difficult pregnancies for leaving...my kids bring me joy and keep me insane enough to not take life too seriously. hehehe. happy mothers' day!
yes that's true...as i always say, i'm a mother, not a martyr hahaha:)
yep yep, belated happy mother's day.
happy mother's day, aprylle. a bit late but it's okey. i know how happy you must be, amid the sacrifices you have to do for your baby.
thanks jo... i know there's a brighter light at the end of this tunnel, but the tunnel is peppered with shimmering glitters anyways... :)
mommy pinky!!! i remember na your reason for going on leave, and not going back. but looking at your latest family pics, i know everything is worth it! :)
roomie!!!! you're the friend who has given me my reality checks talaga, even before i gave birth. am so glad you're just a text away :)
happy, yes. and sleepy too... hehehe :)
damo nga salamat, mano greg.
Belated Happy Mother's day!!
sabi nga ni husband, kahit di raw ako naging lawyer, naging prolific pa rin naman daw ako, hehehe... di bale, sabi nya, pwede naman daw ako uli bumalik ng lawschool pag college na yung bunso, ngek! :)) enjoy your motherhood!
belated happy first mother's day!
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